The journey of life is one that many of us miss out on, because we are destination driven. There are so many quotes that try to direct us to “ take time out and smell the roses” yet society actually tries to squash this in all of us with the promise of being happy and fulfilled only when we have completed things. I’m sure everyone of of you has heard ....when you finish college, you will get a great job or when you retire you can travel or when you get married and have children. All teaching us to be destination orientated, missing out on enjoying the pleasures of the journey. Delaying our happiness until we have achieved an acceptable standard or status is dangerous because what if you don’t achieve the milestone? What is the outcome? Disappointment, regret, feelings of failure, feelings of inadequacy
On this adventure we get asked a lot of “what if “ questions, what if you run out of money, what if you get sick, what happens when you get old, what happens if you get sick of the lifestyle. The answer is simple what if none of that happens.
The human brain’s primary job is to keep us alive. It’s called the flight fight or freeze response and it’s automatic. It happens within milliseconds of us encountering anything new. It means that when faced with something unfamiliar our natural first response it to either run, fight it or stop still, this is true for anything that is unfamiliar to our brain, situations, people and even new ideas. So when a different way of thinking about something is presented to you, your brain will automatically start to find reasons to dismiss or discredit that thinking, just to keep you safe, keep you in familiar territory. That’s why we get so many negative “what if” questions and that’s ok. It took the Spunky Rooster and I along time to be brave enough to venture past our brains natural defence mechanism and enjoy the journey. We may run out of money, or get sick, or get tired of being on the road and we will deal with that when it happens but..........what if we never do? What would we have missed out on, what would we have regretted? What roads would we have not travelled? What would we not have experienced?